Have you noticed all the kids at the airport lately?
Not so long ago, you could only find them at the terminal playground areas or the gates, where their parents kept a watchful eye on them. But no longer.
“It’s a free-for-all,” says Lisamarie Monaco, an insurance saleswoman from Jacksonville, Fla. She knows something about travelling with youngsters as the mother of seven kids. And she’s been appalled at what she’s seen lately.
“Parents let their kids do whatever they want at the airport,” she says. “It drives me crazy.”
Passengers are complaining about free-range children running around the airport unsupervised. How bad has it gotten? When I lived in Santiago, Chile, last year, one young passenger jumped on a luggage belt and took a joyride. Airport workers eventually retrieved the unharmed child.
The anything-goes attitude is often a preview of the flight to come. Who can forget that viral video of the toddler using her tray table as a springboard on an eight-hour flight? Or the frustrated United Airlines captain who wanted to divert his flight because of unruly schoolkids in the back of the plane?
Air travellers disapprove of free-roaming kids.
Passengers are almost unanimous about this problem: 90 percent of travellers say parents should not let their kids roam free, according to a recent survey by Kayak. After all, your fellow passengers are not babysitters.
“These encounters with kids have become a bigger issue,” says Howard Pratt, a psychiatrist at Community Health of South Florida who specialises in treating children. Not everybody travelling looks forward to interacting with kids who are not their own. So it’s not just a question of protecting your kids from strangers. Still, it is also about protecting other passengers from the potential stress they may experience from dealing with kids they don’t know, yet who they may feel responsible for.”
What’s a parent to do? If you’re flying with young kids, you may wonder if letting them run free anywhere at the airport is OK. When are they old enough to let you out of their sight? What are parents’ responsibilities when allowing their kids to interact with fellow passengers? And also, what if you’re on the receiving end of attention from someone’s unsupervised child?
Should you allow children to run free in the airport?
Yes — and no.
“In a safe unpopulated area such as a terminal gate full of empty seats,” says Ashanti Woods, a pediatrician at Baltimore’s Mercy Medical Center. “Children need to play and burn energy, especially if we want them to sleep on the flight.”
But there’s a catch: Parents have to keep one eye on their kids and another at the departure gate to ensure the flight doesn’t leave without them.
So, should you let your kids run free in the airport? No, say experts.
“Children should not be allowed to run free in the airport,” says Bidisha Sarkar, a pediatrician at ClinicSpots, a travel medicine site. “It’s essential for safety and courtesy to keep them within reach at all times.”
What is an appropriate age for your kids to explore the airport without adult supervision?
It depends. Timon van Basten, who runs tours in Spain, says he’s seen kids as young as eight who have no trouble being independent in the airport terminal — and behaving. But it depends on the child and the airport.
“Busy airports like London Heathrow might prove too overwhelming for some kids,” he says.
Sarkar says parents must assess their kids’ maturity and ensure they know all the airport protocols (not leaving the secured areas, being back in time for boarding).
“Parents also have to ensure their children do not disturb others,” she says.
What is a parent’s responsibility for allowing their kids to interact with fellow passengers?
I can’t believe I have to say this, but parents, you are responsible for your children at the airport.
“It’s the parent’s responsibility to keep their child from disturbing other passengers as much as possible,” says Brandi Taylor, a travel concierge.”If your child is trying to initiate a conversation with a stranger, watch the stranger’s reaction. If they are enjoying the interaction, then there’s no need to intervene. But if the stranger would obviously prefer to be left alone, you’ll want to redirect your child.”
Again, it depends on the child. When my kids were toddlers, they would talk to anyone, and not everyone wanted to be talked to. I erred on caution and avoided the free-range kid’s problem.
“Parents should use the occasion to demonstrate many of the foundational etiquette skills that will serve them well their entire life, such as being mindful of others, respecting people’s personal space, being polite yet direct, and setting boundaries,” says etiquette expert Nick Leighton.
What if you have an encounter with an unsupervised child?
Don’t panic. The parents can’t be far away. But if you can’t find the parent, track down an airport or airline employee and ensure they know the free-range child is on the loose.
Etiquette experts say — and I agree with them — you’ll gain nothing by approaching a free-range parent angrily. They already know what they’ve done and probably don’t care.
A lighthearted “Look who I found?” might be the best approach. Yelling or finger-wagging will just stress you out even more, and it won’t change the parents’ behaviour.
Those signs warning of child trafficking in the bathrooms are a good start. If that’s not enough to put the fear of God into a parent, I don’t know what is. More designated areas for kids to play would help, too.
But ultimately, it’s up to parents to teach their kids good manners and responsible behaviour.
Written by: Christopher Elliott
BIO:
Christopher Elliott is an author, consumer advocate, and journalist. He founded Elliott Advocacy, a nonprofit organization that helps solve consumer problems. He publishes Elliott Confidential, a travel newsletter, and the Elliott Report, a news site about customer service. If you need help with a consumer problem, you can reach him here or email him at chris@elliott.org.
